It is open season on proms. The dress, the tux, the limo, the stress and anxiety of having the perfect night. I remember it all only too well. I went to two proms in my day. I later took my younger sisters shopping for their dresses and did their hair and makeup. When it was my brothers turn I helped them pick out their James Bond looking tuxedo’s. As a young woman’s leader I helped my girls get ready for prom. Needless to say, I have done the big night many times.
Styles change. Things go out of vogue. But, the passing of time has not changed the desire to make this Right of Passage a big deal.
I recently watched videos of two different girls preparing for the big night. They both stood out to me because of the vast difference between their attitudes of what this night should be.
One girl was spending money, money, money trying to be like a Gossip girl or a movie star. Her mother was willing to spend into the thousands on what ever her daughter wanted. In contrast the other video showed a girl going to great lengths to make sure that a fun prom was attainable not just for herself, but for other girls in her community. She was coming outside her own desires and looking into the needs of others.
As you translate those two different attitudes into adulthood, it is very clear what kind of women these girls will become, how they will value themselves and where they will put the needs of others.
“If you feel your value lies in being merely decorative I fear that someday you might find yourself believing that’s all that you really are. Time erodes all such beauty, but what it cannot diminish is the wonderful workings of your mind. Your humor, your kindness, and your moral courage.”
Louisa May Alcott
The need to feel pretty and enjoy these milestones in life is a healthy part of the development as a women. The beauty that comes from it is only measured by your own growth as a person.
“Do not limit yourselves. As you seek to know the will of our Heavenly Father in your life and become more spiritual, you will be far more attractive, even irresistible.”
James E. Faust